Forgiveness of Others vs Forgiveness of Self

Good day to you all! Thank you for being here. Please enter with an open mind and an open heart. Express yourself freely and genuinely. This is a place to clear your mind and cleanse your soul.

Today I choose to discuss forgiveness. Such a difficult act. The Act of Forgiveness is something I have personally struggled with myself many times. Why is it so difficult? No one likes to be upset with someone. No one enjoys the sickening pit in the middle of your stomach that keeps you in a dark place. Why do we put ourselves through it? Do we feel if we forgive that person it’s like were telling them, “It’s okay to do what you did. I accept it.” No, hell no in fact. Whatever that person did may have been wrong, but that person is a Child of God. YOU are a Child of God. You don’t have to accept what they did, forgiving someone isn’t giving them permission to hurt you again. It’s freeing yourself from that circumstance, that momentary instance of intense brutal pain. You are not a prisoner. Do not hold yourself hostage in the past. What’s done is done and OVER. If we’re still feeling it now, it’s because we brought it with us to our present. Let it go and free yourself from that hell.

It’s much easier to forgive someone else, than it is to forgive ourselves. We are so hard on ourselves. We beat ourselves down for everything. Nothing is ever good enough; we could have “always done better.” Stop it! Of course we can always look back and think, “I could have done it better, and I should have done it this way.” This is after the fact. You didn’t know then what you know now. That’s what growing is, that’s what life’s about. We start out taking the long road of bad choices and stupid mistakes. We have our loved ones on the side of the road saying, “Wrong way!” But we don’t listen! No, no, no, we know something they don’t! We will stubbornly ride this road all the way to the end, confident that we know what we’re doing. Till suddenly we get to the end of that road and crash. Once we lift ourselves up and look at the wreckage we think, “How stupid am I?! I should have known better.” Yeah, we probably should have, but we didn’t.  All of our broken paths lead us to where we are now. When the possibilities are endless there is no such thing as perfection, to be perfect is an illusion. With endless possibilities we can do anything with time.  But time, is something we don’t always have. So we make the best of what we have with the time allotted and the knowledge available. That’s all we can expect from ourselves, and everyone else in this world. Be easy on yourself, the world is hard enough on you already. Acknowledge your accomplishments, no matter how big or small. Praise yourself for each small victory, whether its getting to work or class on time, passing through that stubborn stop light with ease, or even just getting out of bed. For each small victory leads to a greater more significant triumph. Look at what you have done and where you have came from. I promise if you look at yourself in the mirror and say “I forgive myself because I’m wonderful!” you can’t help but smile and feel good about yourself. Let whatever it is you did or didn’t do go. Learn from it, grow from it and Be Free of it.

I wish you a most blessed day full of spiritual richness and unconditional love.

With All my Heart,
Jen